I woke up this morning to a realization…. By the American standards I am broke, by everyone’s standards I am fat, and frankly I am balding. To be honest with you the balding thing doesn’t really bother me all that much. I would shave my head if it would not irritate my beautiful wife. She has lovingly told me that I can either be bald or fat but she would prefer not both. So that leads me to the next two things. FAT! I don’t have a glandular issue or a medical problem that makes me put on weight. I chose to be fat and take daily action to reinforce that decision. BROKE! I went out into the business world on my own from the comfy seat I had at a salaried bank job. My guaranteed income went out the window and, frankly, it has been a struggle to make ends meet. I know this sounds like a pity party but I assure you it is not. The whole point of this article is perspective. How do you view yourself and the obstacles in front of you?
Balding: In reality when I look the 3 things I have listed out this is the one that is actually somewhat out of my control short of plugs. I can either embrace it or cover it up. I can choose to pull the hair from one side of my head to the other or just buzz it all off when that time comes. This runs parallel to accepting the things that you cannot change and focusing on the things you can. Let that soak in for a minute. How much time do we spend worrying and planning for things that are completely out of our control. What if we took that time and put it to use on things we have control over?
Fat: Like I said, I don’t have a glandular issue or a health problem that causes me to gain weight. I suffer from the inability to push away from the table, and a gym allergy. Fat I can beat! The simple truth is that I can lower my calorie intake and increase my calories burned each day and go from fat to healthy. This is an example of something that is completely in my control and I make a cognizant decision to stay where I am. When we fail to take control of things we can change we run the risk of them becoming things of our control. i.e. Not taking control of my weight can lead to irreversible health problems in the future.
Broke: Most people will never have the courage to leave the security of a salaried position. I did, and there have been days when I have regretted it immensely. However, I know the days of regret are nothing compared to the pain of never taking the leap and believing I could do it. To be honest, even in the midst of the days when we struggle financially I can’t imagine going back to work for someone else. I always felt like there was someone telling me what every minute of my day was worth. I chose to step out and decide what every minute of every day is worth to me. Broke can be fixed with personal development, perseverance, and hustle!
If we focus on things out of our control (balding) we tend to neglect things that we can control (fat and broke) to the point that they are no longer in our control.
As we begin this new year we should focus on our many blessings and be thankful for what we have. We should also realize that we were not put on this earth to simply survive, we were put here to thrive! Quit letting things that you have no control over run/ruin your life. Fix what you can fix and trust God to do the rest.